TOWARDS A NEW STORY OF LIFE IN HARMONY AND JOY

story.pngSays Story:

As far as money goes, I am in a transition process from the Old Story of a capitalist economy, which we all live under, and a New Story for a New World that I would like to model – an economy of giving rather than getting, which for me means that I tell folks that I do not price my income but I still must pay my expenses – I indicate what the expenses are, then leave it up to the recipients of the gift of my services to give back what they are able and would help them feel okay about the transaction.

For more on this see my friend Charles Eisenstein’s book ‘Sacred Economics’ and ‘The More Beautiful World our Hearts know is Possible.’
His descriptions are clear and precisely what I have been trying to say for many years – we got together for a combined interview on video last fall at ZEGG and I can’t wait to see it!

The Circle Way is an old ‘new’ story as it is based on the ways of all people before mass agriculture and the building of urban civilization, when communities were small and connected to each other and to the land and other life on the land and there was no concept of individual ownership because all was in relationship (how can you own your mother the Earth and your cousins the plants and animals?). Civilization changed that old story and everyone alive today has been affected with that individualist thinking of ownership and competition resulting in disconnection, isolation, separation, domination, war, law, police, prisons, lies, scams and manipulation etc etc.

None of that is anyone’s fault and blame only increases the separation.

What is needed is connection, seeking together commonality in our human condition and how we can help one another to fulfill our common needs
and desires. So every way in which anyone can make connections with the hearts of others and bestow the gift of understanding and compassion is going to help move us all in the direction of that more beautiful world our hearts know is possible.

So every moment we spend listening to and sharing with others advances us on the journey together and we are strengthened with the love and the joy that comes with those connections. Gratitude and celebration bring us also closer and further together.

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Traditional prayer to open gatherings

Let us put our hearts and minds together and think for a moment of our mother, the Earth, how beautiful she is, how much we love and are nourished and healed by her.  And thank all our relatives that share her with us, and the distant relatives across the great circle of the Universe.  And finally send our thanksgiving for our lives and all that exists to the Great Mystery that provided and allows us to experience it all, for the teaching our lives have given us, for the dreams and challenges of the future, and for the miracle of love in our hearts.

Story (Manitonquat) www.circleway.org

Eco-village as a model

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If we accept theory T for a moment – that we humans have the innate capacity to create better lives for ourselves in groups, how could we come together to create such a solution given we are living in a world that is not configured for the Theory T approach?

A good solution might be found in the eco village or better still, the Eco-unit approach. Basically  you could  see a modern  village (or city district for that matter) as a place where people live, and they go to work to get money to provide their essentials,

The eco village on the other hand is a machine that provides inhabitants with a roof over their head, food on the table and social cohesion. The village and surrounding land is co-owned rather than just the houses being individually owned as in a conventional village(although houses can still have individual ownership or rights).

This machine has the potential to provide the essentials with less fossil fuel needed, with much less pollution and with more equity.

Theory T says that given enough tools of self determination and co creation, a group of people can work things out appropriate to their situation, geographical, bioregional, temperamental, historical and otherwise.

You could say that theory T offers a way to save the planet, one small group at a time.

It could well be the best investment anyone can make. See the article about Eco-village as investment.

Read more about Eco-units Ecovillage 2-0

Active Listening

ACTIVE LISTENING

A more active role in listening can often be helpful as well as passive , since, as listeners, we are not caught up in the distresses and patterns of the subject we are listening to. We are then able to provide a more accurate picture of the reality of the situation and of our subjects’ goodness, lovability, intelligence, helpfulness and worth, and encourage the discharge of feelings, the identification of patterns, and decisions the subject may make to act in contradiction to those patterns. In the beginning it is fine to stay with passive listening while you are still thinking of the situations and thoughts and feelings being expressed and offering encouragement and appreciation at the end of the session. After a while you will want to be a bit more active and offer insights and views that may give more support and confidence to the subject. One usually helpful direction for a Listener to offer is for the subject to seek childhood memories, especially any that may seem to relate to present time feelings and situations, because most of our deepest feelings began there. You may encourage a stronger discharge of emotions; encourage them to be felt not just talked about. You may encourage discharge by asking the subject to assume a different posture, use a stronger more confident voice, communicate with greater intensity.

Since every one of us is different and our histories unique, there is no way to teach a response for every session. This is where our experience, intelligence, creativity and compassion come into play as our instruments of help in all situations. As you practice you will develop ways in each relationship to understand and support the subject better. That is why it is good to have regular sessions with at least one person who gets to know you and your history and whom you get to know very well. Going to workshops and camps and being in circles where there are often demonstrations of Supportive Listening sessions is an excellent way to add to your understanding and your arsenal of tools to help your subjects. But please do not think you cannot be an effective Supportive Listener when you observe how other more experienced who seem more skilled. Believe me, the most important quality you can have is your compassion and understanding, and when your Subject feels that in you that is the greatest gift you can give.

PATTERNS

This basic human nature is sometimes obscured, occluded or confused by hurts we have received and for which we have feelings not fully discharged or understood. No one is to blame for those feelings, not yet fully discharged, or for the patterns of behavior they elicit, but that the more we are able to feel and discharge those feelings the more we loosen their hold on our consciousness. We can decide they are old news that need not affect us today and we can let go of them. This can then happen as we make new choices and act on them. Try to contradict any feelings of discouragement as your Subject recognizes and confronts patterns. Make light of the patterns, let your Subject know that you are on it with her, and with you on her side those patterns haven’t a chance.

When we are hurt or frustrated or in need as an infant we discharge our distress spontaneously and immediately. What we require then is someone to hear and understand and to offer help and solace. When our cries for understanding and help go unheeded, we may give up on ever being heard or helped, decide we have to take care of ourselves and defend ourselves from further vulnerability and disappointment. We develop different strategies for this, depending on our personalities, and although what we devise my not be very effective, if it receives some response we try again. Repeated it becomes our automatic or default response to distress and loss, hurts and frustrations. Since we do not discharge, the feelings are submerged and may surface unexpectedly at times when re-stimulated. To weaken and let go of old patterns we may discover the early incidents when the distress was not discharged, and as fully as possible discharge them now. This is easiest with a Supportive Listener, leading us to declare that

It is never too late to have a happy childhood.


 

Text from Medicine Story’s A GUIDE to the circle way